Why and how to Relax

A Simple way to Relax

As I have said in a previous post some methods of relaxing have far to specific and complicated. Its all well and good going around and trying to be centered and level. Not experiences the lows and worries of life, staying at the even keel. But what about the highs, what about joy, emotional or physical.

There are other programs which act as a band aid and can work as long as things go well. They seem to fall apart when your sick and at your lowest. When your mental stamina is low the cracks appear because the problem is still there.

If you have a problem that is causing you prolonged stress, then you need to get the problem resolved for your own mental and physical health. There are many types of therapies so have a look in your area.

If you need to just relax or come down from a high level, then you can try this. But first why does it work? In many therapies they will ask you to take a deep breath, fill up your lungs then exhale. If you try this and really do it, you will notice your body expands and your head will rise. When you exhale as much as you can you body contracts and you drop down.

This creates chemical changes in the brain and there are many studies that show this. You will also have a physical behaviour when your stressed. You will hold yourself in a certain way. When you use this breathing pattern, you change the association in your mind.

Simple Way To Relax

So, take a deep breath, fill up your lungs, hold it for a few seconds and release all of it and allow your body to drop or sink with it. Then repeat as needed. Simple!

Yes, it’s simple, but will you try it, probably not. Why is that? Have you been told its more complicated and you only need to buy this, whatever and your cured.

With this you help change the stress hormone levels, you break a physical association with the stress, you increase the oxygen levels, and you will feel yourself dropping down.

If you have an underlying problem get help, if your just stressed in a situation try this. Sometimes simple works.

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Christmas stress with COVID and Family

Surviving Christmas Stress with the family

We all know Christmas time can be a stressful time even when everything is going well and let’s face it things have not gone well this year. No matter what side you come down on. If you think the governments reaction is overkill or they have not done enough. The damage that has been done is real and the economic affects will be with us for many years to come.

Many people have lost their jobs in the short turn and many more will not be returning to the same job. Some industries will take years to recover and we have already seen some companies closing their doors for good. For those who have lost someone hopefully you will remember the fun times rather than the end. Grief is natural and normal, and we need to go through it.

For many people the thoughts of being stuck with their family is not a pleasant one. First of all, we generally don’t like the feeling that we have to do something, it feels like control has been taken away. Second there may be issues bubbling under the surface for years if not decades.

Family Tension at Christmas

Unresolved issues in families is nothing new but small issues over time have destroyed families. I have worked with family members where a misunderstanding caused them not to speak for years. Remember wires do get crossed and remember just because something is important to you nobody else may care. Just like you not caring or thinking something is silly that is so important to someone else.

We are all different and we see things differently and the meaning we give that will shape how we view people and things around us. Since we all do this, the world looks slightly or completely different from person to person. Its not personal we are simply different.

So, if a relation starts questioning your life choices or it would be better to cook something a different way and everything in between, its not important. They are just giving voice to what is in their head and it will not be here for too much longer. If you are happy with it, it does not matter what someone else thinks.

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Christmas Stress with COVID Alone

Living with Christmas stress alone

Christmas time can be a stressful time even when everything is going well. I think we can all agree that 2020 has been a year that we all want to forget! No matter what side you come down on the damage that has been done is real and the economic affects will be with us for the next few years.

For those who have lost someone, that will always stay with them. Over time, hopefully you will remember the fun times rather than the end.

With the lockdowns many people have felt isolated and very much on their own. Not just physically but emotionally alone and forgotten about. As a species we are a social group and we need contact with other humans. The degree of contact will vary from person to person, weather its just a face to face chat or a hug.

It has been well documented the affects of isolation can have on an individual. One of the problems is that when you feel like this you don’t feel like making the extra effort. This effort may just be making a video call with someone. When you feel like this you may feel that they should have contacted you and if they are not going to try well then why should you.

Well be selfish, this is for you! Reach out, have a laugh or a rant, get it of your chest. Make the effort but if they can’t talk at that moment call someone else. I know from my experience my sister calls me when I’m having dinner, time and time again. So be mindful of that when you make a call or receive one. They may be busy and on the other side they may need to talk.

If you are going to spend Christmas by yourself then make the effort to make it as fun as you can. It doesn’t matter if it’s a bit silly. Anything you can do to make it better for you is worth the effort.

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Just Trying to Relax

For most of us, that is what we are trying to do, just trying to relax. It sounds simple enough but all we have to do is look around at all the people who are stressed and if your reading this maybe all you have to do is look in the mirror.

So why is just trying to relax so difficult for us, all you have to do is google it and you will find so many ways to help with specific problems. In truth that is one of the problems, we all view things differently. Plus, we mean slightly different things even though we may use the same words.

If I asked you to describe an emotion without using another emotion or feeling to describe it, you will find it exceedingly difficult. Stop for a moment and try it, describe what love is but be logical and factual. If you do it, you will see the difficultly and what you do come up with, do you think that is the list other people would come up with?

Now when I asked you do think of love, what type of love did you think off. Love for one-self, love for your parents, your children, your spouse, your pets. Maybe it was love for a deity or maybe physical love?

That was only one word but straight away we can go into different directions and then how do we perceive it. What does it me to us and what emotions do we attach to those thoughts or meanings? That is how we see life on a daily basis.

Something comes into our awareness and we think, what does this mean to us, then already in our subconscious we have programs that will align emotions to this. It does this because our subconscious is lazy, very powerful but lazy.

So that is a reason why you may have tried something in the past that has worked for others but not you. We are all unique and when some programs get to precise it can create a problem.

Its easy enough to relax or at least partially in most cases. I am not talking about panic attacks, you can more about them in other posts. In my next post ill explain how you can relax in simple general steps and explain why it works.

Changing Negative Thoughts with Hypnosis

How to Change Negative thoughts with Hypnosis

There are many programs out there with many techniques to change how you think. Some are good and some are completely rubbish. As a clinical hypnotist I want to get to the reason and go from there.

It might be real, or it might be imagined, or it could be your perception on an event from your past causing you problems. If you believe it then its real for you. However, it affects you is how we deal with the problem.

No matter the cause or the severity we can help. We help you see it differently by reframing it for you or changing what it means to you. There are techniques and we tailor them to suit you. Most times its between 3 and 4 sessions, maybe 6 for traumatic events.

If you have any questions about changing negative thoughts or what Hypnosis is please call for more information or see our home page, Dublin Hypnosis Dun Laoghaire.

In response to external influences, people create beliefs. Some of these are helpful and some are not so helpful. Several assumptions that can interfere with self-confidence and positive ways of thinking are:

I must always be successful at every challenge that I undertake. Well this assumption is a totally unrealistic. In life each person has his strengths and his weaknesses and while it is important to learn to do the best it is more important to learn to accept yourself as being human. Let yourself feel good about what you are good at, accept the fact that you do not know everything, and you do not need to.

I must be perfect, and loved by everyone, and satisfy everyone. Again, this assumption is a totally unrealistic assumption. All human beings are less than perfect. It is well advised to develop personal standards and values that are not very dependent on the approval of other people.

Everything that happened to me in the past remains in control of my feelings and behaviours in the present. While it is true that your confidence was especially vulnerable to external influences when you were a child as you gain maturity appreciation and point of view on what those influences have been.

In doing so, you can choose which influences you will continue to allow to influence your life. You do not have to be helpless based on what happened in the past

If you would be interested but unsure why not try our Guided Relaxation through Hypnosis session so you can experience hypnosis without telling us any personal information. It’s a great way to start and everyone could benefit from some relaxation.

Self-Esteem with Self-Hypnosis

How to Build Your Self-Esteem with Self-Hypnosis

If you have read some of my other post you may have heard me say before that at times its not about finding something but it’s about getting rid of the negative images and films that we call memory. If it’s a bad memory what will happen if we do it again? Will it be dangerous, will we look foolish and what will other people think? In other words, judgment.

There is no point looking for inner peace anywhere else except within yourself. You do not need to travel and pay someone a fortune all you need to do is change the negative into positive. Imagine having happy thoughts on a constant basis, would you be happy? And being happy is what we really want.

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A social phobia is a fear of interacting with others on a social level. Examples would be talking in front of other people, waiting in line at the checkout imagining others are looking at you, or even fear of talking on the phone.

Self-confidence is a feeling that allows people to have positive, yet realistic views of themselves and their circumstances. Self-confident people have confidence in their own abilities, have a general sense of control over their lives, and believe that, within reason, they will be able to do what they want and need to do.

Confidence is a perspective that is accomplished through experiences. When a person experiences success, that person will tend to expect to be successful. And that very expectation will cause a feeling of self-confidence.

Imagine A young lady who is scared to death of being in high places wants to learn to dive into a swimming pool from an extremely high diving board. So, she finds a diving coach who asks her to take a jump into the pool from the first rung of the ladder going up to the high diving board. The first step of the ladder is not awfully high, so the young lady feels confident, and she dives from that rung, and lands in the water unharmed.

Next, the athletic coach has her take a jump from the second rung of the ladder, and so forth. I assume that you see what’s going on here. With each new step she takes as she climbs higher up the ladder, since the girl was able to jump without fear or harm, and the next higher step is only slightly higher than the last, the fear factor is negligible, and the girl expects to be successful. When she dives in and is unhurt, the girl’s self-confidence increases, and her expectation of success on the next step up the ladder increases.

If a person who has a long history of success and feelings of confidence does fail, they still tend to expect success the next time out. Conversely, when a person who is weak in the self-confidence department fails, they tend to lose confidence, and expect failure, which can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Having true self-confidence doesn’t mean that individuals will be able to do everything. People, who have true self-confidence, usually have expectations that are practical. Even when some of their expectations are not met, they continue to be confident and to accept themselves.

People, who are not self-confident, tend to depend excessively on the approval of others in order to feel self-confidence. They usually don’t take risks because of the fear of failure. They make light of themselves and tend to discount compliments that they receive.

Conversely, confident people are willing to risk the disapproval of others because they generally have confidence in their own prowess. They acknowledge themselves; and they don’t feel they have to conform in order to be admired.

Just because one feels self-confidence in one or more parts of their life, doesn’t mean that they will feel overconfident in every single part of their life. For example, a person might feel optimistic about their athletic prowess, but not feel confident as far as members of the opposite sex are involved, such as in a dating situation, or social relationships.

So how is Self-confidence developed Initially?

Many powerful and effective truths have an impact on the development of self-confidence. Parents’ attitudes are critical to the way children think about themselves, especially in their early years. When parents provide admiration, children receive a solid foundation for self-esteem.

If one or both parents are excessively demanding or critical, or if they are overprotective and discourage moves toward independence, children may be fated to believe they are incapable, inadequate, or inferior.

However, if parents encourage a child’s moves toward self-reliance, and they are not overly critical when the child makes mistakes, the child will learn to accept herself, and will be on the way to developing self-confidence.

A lack of confidence is not necessarily related to a lack of ability. A lack of self-confidence is often the result of centering much too strongly on the ridiculous expectancy of other people, friends and parents. The control of peers can be more powerful than that of parents in shaping the feelings about one’s self.

If you would be interested but unsure why not try our Guided Relaxation through Hypnosis session so you can experience hypnosis without telling us any personal information. It’s a great way to start and everyone could benefit from some relaxation.

Feeling down in Dublin Dun Laoghaire

Always Feeling down in Dublin Dun Laoghaire

It’s true you can feel down anywhere in the world but since I work in Dun Laoghaire Dublin I generally only see people from the area. First of all its ok to feel down sometimes, it’s a completely natural process.

We are bombarded with information about being positive and upbeat and don’t forget to set your goals! Yes they are all positive things! Yes you should do them but if something has gone wrong and you feel down, well that’s ok.

If someone you know or love has either passed away or is very sick this can make you feel down. Maybe your job is not the job you want to be doing for the next 20 years this can make you feel down. If you have reached an age where you look at your achievements and prospects and think how did I get here you may feel down. Especially if its not what you want.

If you would just like to remove some stress have a look at our Guided Relaxation trough Hypnosis Session.

Are you Feeling Down in Dublin Dun Laoghaire?

What does this tell you? Feeling down is ok, felling down is a natural state at times. Now if you examine it further you can see that feeling down is a sign or alarm to make you aware that something needs to change.

It’s not possible to change everything especially around death but even here there are things we can do to improve how we feel about it. If you’re not happy with your job then you need to look for another one. Yes you may need to train to get a further qualification but maybe this can be done at night or online.

If it’s your relationship then you need to look to improve it. What did you both do when you felt the love? What did you do at the beginning of the relationship? If you can improve it, well then you need to ask the tough questions.

Even when it comes to death you can make changes. I see a lot of people for this and many times it comes down to perceived guilt. Whether the guilt is real or imagined as long as you perceive it to be true you will feel it. This can be difficult for people to overcome by themselves and can haunt people for years.  For more information see our home page Hypnosis Dun Laoghaire Dublin.

Stop Anxiety Dun Laoghaire Dublin

How to Stop Anxiety in Dun Laoghaire Dublin Area

If anxiety is on the increase why do so many people struggle when there looking for help? If you want to stop anxiety in the Dublin Dun Laoghaire area we can help and much faster than you may think. Call now for more information.

Anxiety is affecting more and more people out there! While awareness is higher than before it can be the symptoms that can stop someone looking for help. If you think about the symptoms of anxiety and look at them from a general overview what do they do to you?

In one form or another they wear you down, undermining your confidence. Day after day after day, until you feel tired, irritable and what you once could do without much effort becomes difficult to do. Depending on the level of anxiety it can lead into panic attacks and you may feel your world spiraling out of control.

Anxiety ads new fears

You may feel at times as if your thoughts are somehow not right! You may begin to question your own sanity. This can make it hard to explain to others what is happening as you worry what others will think. For some, this is a reason why they wait to get help. Just in case something is really wrong with them and they fear what will happen to them.

For others when anxiety leads to panic or panic attacks they fear going certain places or to events and as time goes by they see their world become smaller almost as if there life exists in every shrinking bubble. Month by month where they feel comfortable going can shrink until for some they end up feeling house bound.

You can stop Anxiety in Dun Laoghaire Dublin area

The affects differ from person to person as does the severity and length of time each episode will last. The important thing to remember if you or someone who you know suffers from anxiety is, there is help available! Plus this is very common and if you want to read more information see our home page Dun Laoghaire Hypnosis.