Why and how to Relax

A Simple way to Relax

As I have said in a previous post some methods of relaxing have far to specific and complicated. Its all well and good going around and trying to be centered and level. Not experiences the lows and worries of life, staying at the even keel. But what about the highs, what about joy, emotional or physical.

There are other programs which act as a band aid and can work as long as things go well. They seem to fall apart when your sick and at your lowest. When your mental stamina is low the cracks appear because the problem is still there.

If you have a problem that is causing you prolonged stress, then you need to get the problem resolved for your own mental and physical health. There are many types of therapies so have a look in your area.

If you need to just relax or come down from a high level, then you can try this. But first why does it work? In many therapies they will ask you to take a deep breath, fill up your lungs then exhale. If you try this and really do it, you will notice your body expands and your head will rise. When you exhale as much as you can you body contracts and you drop down.

This creates chemical changes in the brain and there are many studies that show this. You will also have a physical behaviour when your stressed. You will hold yourself in a certain way. When you use this breathing pattern, you change the association in your mind.

Simple Way To Relax

So, take a deep breath, fill up your lungs, hold it for a few seconds and release all of it and allow your body to drop or sink with it. Then repeat as needed. Simple!

Yes, it’s simple, but will you try it, probably not. Why is that? Have you been told its more complicated and you only need to buy this, whatever and your cured.

With this you help change the stress hormone levels, you break a physical association with the stress, you increase the oxygen levels, and you will feel yourself dropping down.

If you have an underlying problem get help, if your just stressed in a situation try this. Sometimes simple works.

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Christmas stress with COVID and Family

Surviving Christmas Stress with the family

We all know Christmas time can be a stressful time even when everything is going well and let’s face it things have not gone well this year. No matter what side you come down on. If you think the governments reaction is overkill or they have not done enough. The damage that has been done is real and the economic affects will be with us for many years to come.

Many people have lost their jobs in the short turn and many more will not be returning to the same job. Some industries will take years to recover and we have already seen some companies closing their doors for good. For those who have lost someone hopefully you will remember the fun times rather than the end. Grief is natural and normal, and we need to go through it.

For many people the thoughts of being stuck with their family is not a pleasant one. First of all, we generally don’t like the feeling that we have to do something, it feels like control has been taken away. Second there may be issues bubbling under the surface for years if not decades.

Family Tension at Christmas

Unresolved issues in families is nothing new but small issues over time have destroyed families. I have worked with family members where a misunderstanding caused them not to speak for years. Remember wires do get crossed and remember just because something is important to you nobody else may care. Just like you not caring or thinking something is silly that is so important to someone else.

We are all different and we see things differently and the meaning we give that will shape how we view people and things around us. Since we all do this, the world looks slightly or completely different from person to person. Its not personal we are simply different.

So, if a relation starts questioning your life choices or it would be better to cook something a different way and everything in between, its not important. They are just giving voice to what is in their head and it will not be here for too much longer. If you are happy with it, it does not matter what someone else thinks.

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Christmas Stress with COVID Alone

Living with Christmas stress alone

Christmas time can be a stressful time even when everything is going well. I think we can all agree that 2020 has been a year that we all want to forget! No matter what side you come down on the damage that has been done is real and the economic affects will be with us for the next few years.

For those who have lost someone, that will always stay with them. Over time, hopefully you will remember the fun times rather than the end.

With the lockdowns many people have felt isolated and very much on their own. Not just physically but emotionally alone and forgotten about. As a species we are a social group and we need contact with other humans. The degree of contact will vary from person to person, weather its just a face to face chat or a hug.

It has been well documented the affects of isolation can have on an individual. One of the problems is that when you feel like this you don’t feel like making the extra effort. This effort may just be making a video call with someone. When you feel like this you may feel that they should have contacted you and if they are not going to try well then why should you.

Well be selfish, this is for you! Reach out, have a laugh or a rant, get it of your chest. Make the effort but if they can’t talk at that moment call someone else. I know from my experience my sister calls me when I’m having dinner, time and time again. So be mindful of that when you make a call or receive one. They may be busy and on the other side they may need to talk.

If you are going to spend Christmas by yourself then make the effort to make it as fun as you can. It doesn’t matter if it’s a bit silly. Anything you can do to make it better for you is worth the effort.

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