Anger Management with Hypnosis

Can you use Hypnosis to get rid of Anger?

We use hypnosis to deal with anger management issues all the time. Sometimes the cause of the problem is buried but with regression therapy we can find the cause and reframe it. In other words the emotion associated with the memory is different so even though the situation is the same you feel different in it.

As a human being, you are provided with a means to show how you feel by displaying emotion. Aside from elation, fear and sadness, anger is an intense feeling. In biological terms, anger maybe caused by an interaction with hormones triggering it. In simple terms, people see anger as an intense emotion that can be triggered by external and internal factors.

The fast-paced world has made people ignore anger and yet find themselves unnaturally irate about small, insignificant things. Although anger can differ in intensity, it can still be very destructive. An extremely angry person may not be able to control his emotions, causing him to behave, think and speak aggressively.

Aggression is said to be the ultimate expression of anger. If you find yourself getting angry over trivial matters, you should consider anger management before you hurt yourself or other people. Also see Angry all the time.

When managing anger, you would be subjected to different situations where intense feelings would be aroused. By undergoing such situations, you somehow learn to control your angry reactions. Although getting extremely angry is unhealthy, you should also realize that not getting angry at all is also bad.

A healthy balance of anger expression and suppression is recommended. Calming one’s self after an angry episode is very important in managing anger. People who fail to express anger in a healthy way are more likely to become hostile or over-critical of others.

Determining whether you are an angry individual requires some psychological testing. The intensity and trigger factors of your anger will be observed. If you think you are feeling too much anger, then you probably are. Accepting that you are an angry person and seeking professional help is the first step towards managing your anger effectively.

There are many simple techniques that you can try to avoid being extremely angry. For starters, you should do some breathing exercises to slow down your heart rate. You should also “talk yourself out” of being angry. Some people do yoga or other relaxing exercise to provide them with a calm feeling.

Of course, it is important to remember that controlling your anger is not something that can happen overnight. If you think you need professional help, you can go to a reliable Hypnotherapist to help you understand why you are always angry and look for an effective therapy or solution that will help manage your anger.

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If you would be interested but unsure why not try our Guided Relaxation through Hypnosis session so you can experience hypnosis without telling us any personal information. It’s a great way to start and everyone could benefit from some relaxation.

End Stress and feel Happy

Its not hard to think that we have to strive for something to make us happy. Wheather its a new relaxation technique or enlightenment course but the truth is very simple. Maybe that’s the problem, in this life we seem to like the hidden, the mysterious.

If I was to tell you about this 2 thousand year old technique that helped bring enlightenment to an ancient and wise people but the information was only for the elite and that’s how it was lost over time but now it has been rediscovered. The good news its only bla bla bla and you too can find happiness.

Id know id make sales because I’m marketing in a way that would give you hope but only if you buy the product. You want something, I can supply it for a price.

I want you to think about a time that you were really happy. Maybe with your parents or your own children. Maybe out with your friends when you were distracted by them or the fun you were having. Did you need anything to be happy?

No, when all the baggage we carry was forgotten we were happy. So maybe we shouldn’t spend our lives looking outwards but inwards. What is making you unhappy? Well if you get rid of what makes you unhappy what would that leave you feeling?

If your one of those people that will say but what makes me unhappy is something I have to do then maybe you need to take a closer look at that or choose to look at it from a different angle. Our emotions are perceived reactions to stimulus.

If your late and the car in front of you is going to slow then their an idiot, to them your the mad person up their bumper. There are many examples of how people see the same situation differently from their own perspectives. In other words, when you see it differently you feel different.

Sometimes this can be difficult to workout by yourself if the pain is from a long time ago but with hypnosis its not hard and if you want the change and will work with the therapist then is relatively quick.

Even for something like depression its only around six sessions so if its only something small but has you going in circles it may only be one or two sessions. For more see our home page Dun Laoghaire Hypnosis.

All or nothing thinking

As you can see in the other post the way we think or perceive things affects what we do, how we do it and when we interact with other people the outcome from that. So if you know someone who is an all or nothing person or black and white thinker or maybe it’s you, what does this cost you?

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Well let’s take a simple relationship, if you think this way, well when you put forward an idea your idea is right. You wouldn’t waste your time putting forward an idea that’s wrong so the simple intelligent thing for others to do is to do it your way. Anyone one with have a brain could see that, it’s not complicated.

Now how would you feel if you or someone who thought that way was told no, I know I much better way of doing it. Can you imagine the challenge that person feels now? What if it’s a loved one? When you see life in black and white or absolutes a simple discussion about directions can lead into a major augment. They may get angry or hurt and the other person is just taken aback at something they place no importance on looking at what can look like a hissy fit.

You just embarrassed me in front of our friends, how dare you try to make me look foolish in front of them. The common reply is, you don’t need me to make you look like that. It can be very difficult to live with someone who is like this but it can also be hard to live with others when you feel this way. But the question always comes back to why do I feel this way. Why does it have to be black or white, this way or the highway.

There can be a few answers but if you examine it, why is it so bad to be wrong? If you’re wrong why are you always wrong? Why get angry or hurt when someone wants to do it a different way?

What happened in your life, early childhood that would cause these feelings? Where you made to feel wrong or stupid? Was this the way it was between your parents so what you became used to. If not keep asking until you find some answers.

In hypnosis we can help with many of these feelings and it not only helps you but those around you and your relationships can improve which make you feel better from a different angle. If you’re interested in learning more see Irish Hypnosis Dun Laoghaire.

Can’t let go of a relationship

This is quite a common problem with people and it affects us differently. This depends of how the relationship ended but also on what type of personality you have.  This has such a wide spectrum from feeling sad to murder in the extreme cases.

So what is it for you? Do you feel hard done by, after all that work you put into it and now he or she has ended it? You have wasted so many years and if they think they can just walk away without any consequences then they have another thing coming. They are just confused because we are soul mates and they just need to be reminded of that. Feeling angry all the time, If I can’t have them then nobody will.

Obviously that’s just a few but it covers the spectrum. Before we look at that in more detail lets imagine a scenario where the relationship was ended by the other party. There was no cheating with a third party they just didn’t see a future in it but you did.

How would this make you feel? Depending on where you appear on that spectrum it will range from hurt, let down, rejected and angry. I’m not asking you to excuse any behaviour but just think about how they react to things. Have you ever had one of those moments where you said to yourself oh now I know why he reacts like that? Maybe after seeing their parents do something or a story from their childhood.

They are who they are based on their programme and that programme will run from their birth to the day they die. Depending on the information we accept or reject the new information and the programme changes or stays the same. The difficulty of accepting new information will be a different post.

Now you may be able to see your ex a little differently but the main point of this is the reverse is also true! What is in your programme that would make you feel as if you can’t live without them? For most of us we go and get drunk with our friends or pig out.

For others it’s like a never ending cycle of question’s which you can’t answer with any certainty. In hypnosis we can help you to see it differently and to show you how to dump/let go and give all the negative stuff back. This is done in your mind so you can really let go in a safe environment. This is fantastic and I would recommend everyone should get this done for different issues.

If you are feeling rejected and it starts to affect you badly like depression we may need to go back further and see if you have had other experiences of it, possibly you may have felt or perceived you were rejected a parent or loved one. In a case like this we may use regression to desensitise past events and then use anger release and forgiveness.

If you feel as if you can’t go on or if violence is on your mind you need to see someone before it gets out of hand. The same applies to you, why do I feel this way? The answer is probably a lot deeper and at a much younger age than you imagine. For more information see our home page, Dun Laoghaire Hypnosis.

Angry all the time

We have spoken about snapping at people and some of the reasons this may happen. You can read more on that in the post How to stop snapping at people.  If you are feeling angry during your day you will need to see if this is justified or if the anger seems to be bubbling underneath all the time.

Say for example you go into work and you’re angry during the day and you hate the place and maybe some of the people. You will need to look at that way in a calm detached way. Does the job create something you fundamentally disagree with? Do they promote something that just sits wrong with you? Has the staff or management treated you unfairly or to the point of bullying?

You see where I’m going with this, is there a logical reason why you feel this way. If not, we will look at that lower down. But say there is, if it’s related to your morals it may be time to think of a change. If you can’t then you will need to look at the positives, maybe write a list. For example this job puts food on the table for my family; it pays the pills and keeps a roof over your head etc.

If you have an issue, say your manager dropped you in it or should have taken your side when they didn’t. In truth they may have done something once and it may have been bad but if you keep reliving it with feeling then you’re doing it to yourself. Ask the question, is it hurting them or you? It’s you so you need to be able to let that go which will feel like a weight of your shoulders.

In hypnosis we can help you offload that anger and help you relax so not only do you feel better in the same situation but throughout your day.

If on the other hand your anger is just always present there may be a deeper reason for this. As human beings we run of a programme that starts the day we are born until the day we die. If you have unresolved issues even from an early age they can follow you and cloud your judgement. Have you heard of rose tinted glasses, when imagine the reverse. It may be how you see life or how you see yourself. Either way hypnosis can help, by finding the root of the problem and desensitising it. This is a process and takes on average between 4 and 6 sessions. For more look at our home page Dun Laoghaire Hypnosis.

How to stop snapping at people

If you find yourself snapping at people on rare occasions I wouldn’t worry too much. Life happens to all of us and we can have bad days. These can be caused by ill health like a cold or flu. Lack of sleep can also have adverse effects on us and then of course life can seem to throw obstacles at us.

Theses should be short lived and forgotten unless you need to make an apology. If so make your apology and then forget about it and let it go.

If on the other hand it seems to be constant then you need to examine it closer. If it’s happening with your partner, see can you see any patterns. For example, are you having a good day, looking forward to seeing him then when he walks in the door and you see his face it just overtakes you. This works exactly the same if you reverse the sexes or same sex.

Sometimes when we have heated arguments over a period of time we can create patterns. I’m angry (a heightened state of emotion) I see his face and it happens again and again and again. We can create a pattern so as above your having a great day and you see his face and the next thing you know you’re arguing again.

In hypnosis we can use what we call anger release and forgiveness to help you overcome the built up anger towards someone. This only requires you as the work is done in your mind. This also works for ex-relationships or where you were treated badly in your past. You know those situations where you relive a negative event or keep asking why and try to figure it out again and again.

If this relates to you give us a call and let the anger go. If this does not match your situation I will posting other scenarios that may help you. If you are worried call and if nothing else we can try to put your mind at ease. Find more information when you visit our home page Dun Laoghaire Hypnosis

Stress relief with hypnosis

Stress affects everybody on a daily basis and is a normal part of life. For most of us stress starts when we wake thinking about what we have to do and to get it done within a certain time frame.

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Maybe we have something to do that we don’t want to do, maybe a phone call that your dreading.

Maybe its just the drudge of the same routine that you feel like you have to do, almost like a prisoner.

When you feel this way plus a host of different ways we can make small problems feel like they’re mountains.

You put a run in your tights, you cut yourself shaving. You spill something while making breakfast!  Lets face it, all small things but how many of us curse, get angry and even feel hopeless?

Not to mention who moved your keys! The traffic, idiots who should not have a licence. Bus/luas being late or packed. Your not even in work and if you have children to get ready…

If I stub my toe getting out of bed I have 2 choices, hop and get angry and let that shape my day or hop and good naturedly slag yourself or the bed for moving and let it go.

You have both choices but which do you choose. For some people making mistakes shacks their confidence and they can feel worthless and maybe angry. Yet the ability to walk and talk comes from countless mistakes till you mastered it.

For others they may feel they have to say yes to everybody (including family and friends) which puts to much of a pull on them and they start snapping at the small things.

That’s just 2 examples so for you it may be different but no matter what it is there are ways to see differently and to let go. We are running on a programme from our childhood and past experiences whether you know it or not. Its not your fault and it can be changed.

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